It’s a choice.

All, or I should say most of us can clearly see that this world is massively corrupted and it seems to only be getting worse as time goes on; however I have some great news to tell you…there is still good out there. Good people, good deeds being done, and good things to come. I read a line by an inspiring fellow story teller by the name of Branden Harvey who said, “It was easy to remain optimistic when I was ignorant to the world’s injustices. Now that I’m aware, optimism has to be a daily choice,” and he couldn’t be more right. Optimism is a choice. If we are able to open our eyes in the morning, then we are given the privledge to choose to be happy. Choose to be positive. Choose to be a kind human. Trust me when I say I know it’s not always easy because death is real, sicknesses exist, and unfortunately not-so-nice people have a tendency to challenge the happy energy we produce. To top it all off, it’s very easy to dwell on all the wrongs, cants and wonts, but in the midst of all that, there are so many things that are right, that can, and that will. You must simply try to see those alternatives. After all, this life is all we get and why waste that energy on things that just aren’t worth giving up our goodness for? If today just doesn’t seem like it can turn around after numerous attempts, then try again tomorrow. Joy comes in the morning or at least a new attempt.

With that being said, I would like to challenge you to a few things for the month of July. I’ll start with something my sister taught me to do at a young age cause I was a brat (some would debate that I still am at times, but that’s just my sarcasm as an adult now), she taught me to think before I speak. And let me tell you, that was one of the greatest traits I accomplished and I couldn’t be more thankful for it. Honestly, it’s probably why I have a high tolerance of patience and haven’t been arrested or punched…lol for real though. Thinking before we speak allows us a moment to process what we hear and a second to make sure we say what we intend, with hopes of it not being hurtful. And if your goal is to be hurtful, then I hope you think twice.

Another one is to start freely complimenting. Being an introvert, I always found myself in my head saying “I like those shoes” or “he has a nice smile” until one day I read an article about compliments that changed my perspective. Perhaps that person you like something of doesn’t have a spouse, maybe they’re friendless, or battles low self-esteem? That one compliment of being noticed by you could change their whole day. It may even make their whole week! Think of how you feel when someone compliments you…now put that energy back out there. One compliment a day.

And lastly, I challenge you to consciously create your happiness. Maybe you’re going through one of life’s obstacle courses at the moment, have been let down, or just feeling bummed. I want you to spark what makes you happy so you can remind yourself that what you feel is temporary. What makes you smile? Put on your favorite music and mentally escape. Go to your favorite place and just be. Spend time with someone who lifts you up. When we are happy, we shine. Be the light this world needs. Choose to be kind. Make the effort to be a good human.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” -Martin Luther King, Jr.

Do your dream.

I really wish our minds had little typewriters that would somehow have wifi or print out the thoughts we have, because I could easily have most of my posts done in the shower. That’s just a little taste of my randomness you’ll learn to love along the way.

At 27 years of age, and honestly every year prior to this for the past 9 years, I’ve struggled with the so-called “big” question of “what am I suppose to do with my life.” The question itself has put me into dark places repeatedly over that time frame to where I didn’t even want to exist anymore and begged God to just put me out of my misery. I know, I know, that may seem dramatic to some of you, but depression and anxiety (both of which run in my family) thrive on getting the best of someone’s soul. We basically become a victim and have to go to battle. I’d throw in a Game of Thrones pun but I’m 1 of 5 Americans that hasn’t been exposed to the show…yet! Thankfully, I haven’t seen the black cloud since February 2015. But don’t think I survived that easily, the “big” question still peeks its scrawny head around to say hey what’s up, cause sometimes I feel like I still don’t have the answer and I have one thing to say to that, it’s A OK.

Although I feel pretty content in life at this moment minus a few details; I think we get so caught up on standards that are shown all over social media, billboards, and television that we feel we must meet…what do they call that, oh yeah the “social norms.” *Insert eye roll emoji* It’s the pressures of by this age you should be married (that’s a post or two in itself), or when will you have kids, or your job title isn’t followed by CEO or M.D. that tend to make it easy for us to get wrapped up in what we should do or be; instead of what our hearts truly long for and the happiness we’d like to achieve. Now don’t get me wrong, if your dream is to be a head honcho and you won’t stop until you’re making six figures or more then by all means chase what you hunger. I’m just stating that it really shouldn’t matter what anyone thinks about your life because it is YOUR life. I want you to pursue what makes you smile, what makes you proud, what makes your time on Earth worth it. And that also goes along the lines of be with who makes you feel like you won the lottery or who sees life the way you do so you can conquer any and all of it together. You (and I) do not have to justify the way we feel when we do or don’t want to do something. Now I’m not saying quit your day job to chase what you desire (unless you have savings or a great support system), but to make time for a passion or hobby you enjoy. This way it will be fulfilling in the sense of accomplishing what you like to do, not the strain of “should” be doing. Of course if you are one of the 10 people who are born with the “I know what I want to be when I grow up” and actually become it, then that’s great too and I’m glad for you! I admire people with vision and ambition. I have found that making time for my love of photography, adventures, and now utilizing my brain to write for my blog has made me very happy, focused, and less stressed about life as a whole. I’ll touch base on my slow transition to living minimally which will revisit the purpose of this entry and give you more insight of living a deliberate life.

Ultimately, we all have a purpose or else we wouldn’t exist. Yes, it can be difficult to pinpoint where that purpose lies, but it will be revealed. In the meantime, try to find a balance between making enough to live a stable life but also a life fully lived.